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Second, I
don’t support trying to get him back. My answer? A big NO. Sure, he can
change. Sure, lousy men can become great husbands and fathers if they
really tried. Sure, he can bounce back and turn his whole life around.
But no, I wouldn’t recommend that you try to get him back if you find
yourself in such situation. After all, he already left you once and his
reason, “because you were mean to him,” is a very selfish one. That
simply means he only has his best interests in mind when he enters a
relationship.
Remember, it takes two people looking out for each other to make a relationship work. If he’s only looking out for himself, then whatever relationship you enter into will be a crippled one.
In case he comes back to apologize and asks for a second chance, I’d like to say that forgiving is a good thing. It’s good for him, and it’s good for the men you’ll meet in the future, since you won’t be held down by anger, fear, bitterness, uncertainty, and all those other bad vibes that ruin new relationships. But most of all, forgiveness is good for you. It frees you from his grasp, it heals you, and it gives you time to forget the bad stuff that happened in the past. So, yes, I do suggest you find the time and energy to forgive the men who mistreated you in the past. But when it comes to giving him a second chance, that’s a different story. I’m not really sure that’s a good idea. After all, you already have a bad history together, and it can take years to erase the bad vibes and replace them with good ones.
Do you have that kind of patience? (Most women don’t!) I don’t. And I think it’s a much better to play the dating game, meet better men, and start all over on a clean slate. I think the road to happiness is shorter that way. Let me say that again. I really, really believe men can change their “evil ways.” But at the same time, I really, really don’t think you should go back with a man who intentionally mistreated you. It’s simple, really. Since he mistreated you, it’s a clear sign that he’s really not the best man for you. And the best man for you is out there, waiting for you to meet him. Why in the world would you settle for less, right? I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. The new-year is here already. It’s a clean slate, and it’s another chance to turn your love life around.
Remember, a bad relationship is often caused by a handful of bad decisions. Likewise, a good relationship is the fruit of a handful of good decisions. If you want a good relationship for yourself this 2013, you need to start making good decisions!
To the happiness we all deserve, good luck in love and life and have a wonderful new year filled with opportunities. Cheers.
Remember, it takes two people looking out for each other to make a relationship work. If he’s only looking out for himself, then whatever relationship you enter into will be a crippled one.
In case he comes back to apologize and asks for a second chance, I’d like to say that forgiving is a good thing. It’s good for him, and it’s good for the men you’ll meet in the future, since you won’t be held down by anger, fear, bitterness, uncertainty, and all those other bad vibes that ruin new relationships. But most of all, forgiveness is good for you. It frees you from his grasp, it heals you, and it gives you time to forget the bad stuff that happened in the past. So, yes, I do suggest you find the time and energy to forgive the men who mistreated you in the past. But when it comes to giving him a second chance, that’s a different story. I’m not really sure that’s a good idea. After all, you already have a bad history together, and it can take years to erase the bad vibes and replace them with good ones.
Do you have that kind of patience? (Most women don’t!) I don’t. And I think it’s a much better to play the dating game, meet better men, and start all over on a clean slate. I think the road to happiness is shorter that way. Let me say that again. I really, really believe men can change their “evil ways.” But at the same time, I really, really don’t think you should go back with a man who intentionally mistreated you. It’s simple, really. Since he mistreated you, it’s a clear sign that he’s really not the best man for you. And the best man for you is out there, waiting for you to meet him. Why in the world would you settle for less, right? I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. The new-year is here already. It’s a clean slate, and it’s another chance to turn your love life around.
Remember, a bad relationship is often caused by a handful of bad decisions. Likewise, a good relationship is the fruit of a handful of good decisions. If you want a good relationship for yourself this 2013, you need to start making good decisions!
To the happiness we all deserve, good luck in love and life and have a wonderful new year filled with opportunities. Cheers.
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