NIGERIAN JAILED 90 YEARS IN US FOR FATHERING SIX CHILDREN WITH OWN DAUGHTERS [PHOTO]

An award-winning Nigerian music director, Aswad Ayinde, found guilty of fathering children with his daughters will spend the rest of his life in jail.

According to Mail Online, Ayinde, 55, of Paterson, New Jersey, United States, was sentenced to 50 years in prison on Friday after being found guilty in the second of five expected trials in which he is accused of repeatedly raping his six daughters, resulting in six children being fathered.

Mr. Ayinde was found guilty in his latest trial of having intercourse with a daughters when she was as young as eight-years-old. The second sentence adds to the 40 year sentence Mr Ayinde received in a 2011 trial for sexually assaulting a separate daughter.



Mr. Ayinde is known for directing the music video for the Fugees 1996 smash hit “Killing Me Softly.”

In a disturbing disclosure during his first trial, Mr. Ayinde’s former wife said he was trying to create a “pure family bloodline” by impregnating his daughters. He even claimed during a pre-trial hearing before the first trial that “the world was going to end, and it was just going to be him and his offspring and that he was chosen.”

In this latest trial, it was revealed that Mr. Ayinde began having intercourse with his second daughter from the time she eight-years-old, impregnating her four times.

The sexual assaults happened for almost 30 years until Mr. Ayinde and his wife separated, officials said. They occurred in numerous homes across northern New Jersey, even while the family was under watch of state child welfare officials, according to NBC New York. Some of the rapes even took place in an abandoned funeral home.

The family moving as far away as Florida to avoid investigation after case workers removed multiple children from the Ayinde household in 2000, resulting in Mr. Ayinde being arrested for kidnapping for trying to take them from state custody in a medical center, NBC New York reported.

He pleaded guilty to lesser charges and received a year’s probation – as he continued raping one daughter for at least another two years, according to officials.

The depraved father also beat and starved the girls using wooden boards and steel-toed boots for even “minor transgressions,” Ayinde’s wife testified at the first trial.

Some of the children Ayinde fathered with his daughters were born in the home, with at least two babies who died in the home having been buried without notifying authorities or obtaining birth certificates, NBC New York reported.

Ayinde’s tortured daughters were home schooled and isolated from other children, so as to keep the family secrets hidden, the station added.

With his wife too afraid to confront him, Mr. Ayinde carried out his evil plan without hindrance even while directing the music video for the Fugees 1996 breakout hit ‘Killing Me Softly, for which he won  ‘Best R&B Video’ at the 1996 MTV Music Video Awards. The Fugees are also originally from Northern New Jersey.

ANSWERS TO YOUR KIDS' AWKWARD BATHROOM QUESTIONS

There are few places you will get more awkward questions from your small child than in the bathroom. How do you answer these crazy questions? Well, when you get finished blushing, laughing or fainting on floor, you've got to give them an answer that they can understand. Here are a few of the more awkward questions kids might ask in the bathroom and some answers that my keep you from standing there tongue tied and wondering what to say.

WHAT IS POOP?

This is an easy one! Poop is the leftover stuff that passes through our body after we get all the good nutrition we can from the food we eat. It is waste, and it has germs in it, so it's important that we wash our hands after we use the potty.

WHERE DOES THE POOP GO WHEN YOU FLUSH?

Toilets fascinate kids. Actually, toilets kind of fascinate me, too. I'm so glad they work so well and do the job they do. To answer where the poop goes when you flush, explain that pressure and gravity help move it through pipes out of your house and into the sewer and far away. If your kids are older and want more information, check out this tutorial on how toilets work.

WHY DO BOYS PEE STANDING UP?

Girls may wonder why boys pee standing up, and boys may wonder why girls pee sitting down. Just explain that the opening where urine comes out is positioned differently on both boys and girls, and each of us use the potty the way that is cleanest and most comfortable.

WHY ARE YOU SO HAIRY?

Moms and dads have hair in places that little kids don't. Children are likely to notice your body hair, especially if you shower with them or change together at the pool. Try not to be embarrassed by the question, and just tell them that body hair is something everyone gets more of when they go through puberty and start to change from children to grownups.

WHAT IS THAT THING?

Having boy and girl twins, we never really had a single moment where they were shocked by the sight of the anatomy of the opposite sex. But they did eventually want to know why my son had a different set of parts than my daughter.

What exactly is that thing? Whether your kids see another child naked, or walk in on you or your spouse in the bathroom, they'll likely ask that question at some point. Be honest. Explain that boys have a penis, girls have a vagina, and that like most creatures, human beings are male or female and have the body parts to go with their particular sex.

WHY DON'T I HAVE BOOBIES?

Breasts are another body part that fascinate children. As they start to recognize that their bodies are unique and different from others, they will probably wonder why their mom has protruding breasts and their own chests are flat. Again, just explain that breasts grow at puberty, as girls start to become women.

WHY IS IT SO MUCH BIGGER THAN MINE?

Preschoolers love to compare. This circle is bigger than that one. That rectangle is taller than this one. Whether you are talking about breasts, a penis or whatever, if your kids see their mom or dad naked, they will want to know why certain parts are so much bigger than their own. The simplest answer is that all body parts grow as we go from being little kids to adults. Show them how much bigger your feet are than their own as a good example.

MEET THE PRIME MINISTER AND FIRST LADY OF ICELAND: JOHANNA AND JONINA

Iceland's lesbian PM is the world's first openly gay Prime Minister. Icelandic PM, Johanna Sigurdardottir, and her "wife" of 13 years, Jonina Leosdottir are the Prime Minister and First Lady of Iceland. Johanna Sigurdardottir is Iceland's longest serving Member of Parliament (MP) and also the country's first female to be Prime Minister (PM).

 In 2002, at the age of 60, Johanna Sigurdardottir married Jonina Leosdottir, a writer, in a civil ceremony. Three decades ago, she was an air stewardess and union official, and the mother of two sons married to a banker. Same-sex marriage was legalized in Iceland in 2010.

CHEATING WIFE? 71 PERCENT OF MEN STILL IN LOVE AFTER SPOUSE CHEATS: SURVEY

When it comes to infidelity, men are more forgiving than you might expect, according to a new online survey.

 

The survey, conducted by the site Survive Her Affair, polled 1,500 men who had been cheated on and found that more than 71 percent of the men still said they loved their wife after the affair.

What's more, 92 percent of the betrayed men said they either wanted to save their marriages, or they were unsure.

So how does that percentage stack up against findings from similar surveys? A more general 2012 survey by dating site Our.Time.com showed that at least 42 percent of adults would be willing to work on a relationship with a sexually unfaithful partner.

We want to know what you think: Would you attempt to reconcile with your partner if they cheated on you or would you tell him or her to hit the road? ,  Weigh in with your thoughts in the comments.

Would you stay in a relationship if your partner had cheated on you?

 

Yes/No???

 

 

 

HOME REMEDIES FOR MENSTRUAL PAIN

he best way to treat menstrual problems would be to have parsley juice, in combination with any other juice. You can mix 75 ml of parsley with beet, carrot or cucumber juice, of the same quantity. Take a cup of water and add a piece of fresh ginger to it. Make sure to pound the ginger before you put it in the water. Boil the water for a few minutes and then, strain it. Mix a little sugar to the decoction and consume it, after it cools down a bit. Repeat this three times in a day. Sesame seeds prove to be beneficial in case of menstrual problems. Take half a tsp of powdered sesame seeds, with a glass of warm water, two times a day. Consumption of unripe papaya is beneficial for securing a proper menstrual flow. It is also good for girls whose menses have ceased due to stress or tension. Prepare a bath by immersing an entire Chickpea plant in hot water. This is helpful when there is immense pain during menstruation. The herb of Marigold is helpful in reducing the pain during menstruation and also increasing the flow. It is advisable to have a tablespoon of this, two times a day. For women who face the problem of excessive menstruation, banana flower would provide an effective remedy. Boil a banana flower in some water, until it turns soft. Take it out, crush it and have it with a cup of curd. In half liter of water, put 6 grams of coriander seeds and boil it until only half the quantity remains. Sweeten the decoction, with sugar or honey, and have it when warm. Extract the juice of fresh mango bark. Mix 10 ml of the juice with 120 ml of water. Have this mixture in a dose of 1 or 2 tsp, every one hour. You can also consume the juice of fresh mango bark, after adding an egg white or some mucilage and a small quantity of the kernel of a poppy, to it. Boil 90 gm of the bark of Ashoka tree, in 30 ml of milk and 360 ml of water. Keep on boiling until the total quantity is reduced to about 90 ml. Drink this in 2 or 3 doses. Start consuming this decoction from the fourth day of the monthly period, until the bleeding is checked. Consume thirteen to twenty-five grams of the Indian barbery herb, during excessive bleeding. Prepare an infusion of the herb 'rough chaff' by steeping 15 gm of it, in 250 ml of boiling water. Strain the mixture and drink when warm. Boil two tablespoons of hermal seeds in half a liter of water. Once the decoction is reduced to 1/3rd its quantity, stop boiling. Strain it and let it cool down a bit. Have it in a dose of 15 to 30 ml, per day. Take half a liter of water and boil it with five large heads of hemps, until it reduces to one-half. Strain the decoction, cool it down and have it before going to bed.

WALL MOUNTED LIGHTING FIXTURES FOR YOUR HOMES

Even a simplest place in your home can be added some thrill and magic through the use of lights. Lights are always a great way to add some dramatic spice to your interior. A good thing about lights are that these are one of those elements of a house’s fixtures that can be used everywhere and the large range of classy designs offered by hundreds of brands have made it far easier to choose your own way of lighting that depicts you very own taste. So here you go for some lights that will turn your bare walls into such interesting stuff that people will like to turn their heads towards them for admiration…

ARTURO ALVAREZ EMOTIONAL LIGHT

 The first design of light is named as ‘GLUC’ and seems to have bubbles joined together. The second design named as ‘Kites’ will look perfectly cheerful in your house.



AXO LIGHT

 This light is also a wall light that is in somewhat oval shape with a hole inside and has LED lighting system. It will look superb in any part of your house and even outdoors.

 

 

4.  SANTTA & COLE

 This light is what we call some really smart and creative innovation. This light slides over a reflective two toned slab so that you can change the position of the light on the colour your mood goes with.

5.   OTY LIGHT

This one is a modular square version of wall mounted variety and with this you will for sure don’t need to place any decorative item on your walls as they are the décor in themselves.

6. FLOS

This light is also truly a jaw dropper with a design that is in a ring shape tilted away from the wall and throws light on it.

7. CLASSIC LITE

These are in linear shape that throw their soft light upon the walls and thus creating a mesmerizing ambiance.

 

 

MORE KIDS BEDROOM DESIGNS

 

I love the wonderful way wall designs can transform any room. It is an amazing effect and can uplift the whole look of the room. There are a lot of options available, choose from wallpaper, decals or if you like get inspired and create your own designs. Stencils and paint is all you might need, a lovely way to create your own pattern and use your creativity.

It’s a good idea to make your bedroom look gentle. It’s the place where you relax after a work day and you should get a really good sleep there. The easiest way to make your bedroom gentle is to choice the right color theme and to use wooden furniture and to use a lot of textiles

Here is a collection of designs for kids bedroom walls. The designs are fun and stylish and even with simple furniture the whole look is expensive and very beautiful. Girls and boys, get your kids a lovely bedroom, get inspired

EVERY WOMAN NEEDS VAGINA RECONSTRUCTION - MODUPE OZOLUA

The pioneer of cosmetic surgery in Nigeria and CEO of Body Enhancement Limited, Modupe Ozolua said every woman at some point would need vagina reconstruction. She told Chuks Eze of The Sun Newspaper:

"As long as women have vaginal birth, as long as they have intercourse, and as long as they age, at some point in time, they would need reconstruction. I'm not encouraging every woman to do it, just those who feel they need it or if their gynecologist advises them to do it.

 But women need to know that vagina reconstruction is different from vagina tightening. If you want to feel like a virgin again, I would ask you to see a gynecologist who will repair the appropriate muscles. Vagina reconstruction is different from going in and repairing whatever to restore virginity.

Jada Pinkett-Smith Fires At Media And Cyber Bullies of Teen Stars

Are We Bullying Our Young Artists?

How can we ask for our young stars to have a high level of responsibility if we are not demonstrating that same level of responsibility towards them? This last week, I had to really evaluate the communication in regard to our young artists in the media. I was trying to differentiate cyber-bullying from how we attack and ridicule our young stars through media and social networks. It is as if we have forgotten what it means to be young or even how to behave like good old grown folks.

Do we feel as though we can say and do what we please without demonstrating any responsibility simply because they are famous? Is it okay to continually attack and criticize a famous 19 year old who is simply trying to build a life, exercise his talents while figuring out what manhood and fame is all about as he carries the weight of supporting his family as well as providing the paychecks to others who depend on him to work so they can feed their families as well? Does that render being called a c–t by an adult male photographer as you try to return to your hotel after leaving the the hospital? Or what about our nine year old beautiful Oscar nominee who was referred to as a cunt as well? Or what about being a young woman in her early twenties, exploring the [intricacies] of love and power on the world stage? And should we shame a young woman for displaying a sense of innocence as she navigates through the murky waters of love, heartbreak, and fame?

Are these young people not allowed to be young, make mistakes, grow, and eventually transform a million times before our eyes? Are we asking them to defy the laws of nature because of who they are? Why can’t we congratulate them for the capacity to work through their challenges on a world stage and still deliver products that keep them on top. We all know how hard it is to keep our head above water, even in the privacy of our own homes let alone on the world stage. Imagine yourself, at their age, with the spotlights, challenges and responsibilities.

 Most of us would have fallen by the way side before we could even get to a crashed Ferrari, a controversial romance, several heart breaks, or an Oscar nomination at nine. We wish we could have had the capacity to accomplish half of what they have accomplished along with all these challenges they face. But…maybe that's the problem…we WISH we could have or even…we WISH we could."

Supreme Court to rule on bitter divorce case between Nigerian oil tycoon and British wife

AFTER hearing the appeal of the former wife of one of Britain's richest men for over two days last week, seven Supreme Court Judges of the United Kingdom (UK), including the President of the Supreme Court - Lord Neuberger of Abbotsbuty - will, over the next few months, deliver what could be a landmark judgement in the bitter divorce suit between Itsekiri multi-millionaire oil tycoon, Michael Prest, and his former English wife, Yasmin Aishatu Prest.

The couple, who have four children, oldest is 15, met and married in London in 1993. They lived happily thereafter till a bitter split in 2008.


In what is the third and obviously the final round of the legal tussle that has cost Prest and his former wife about £3 million in legal fees to divorce lawyers, Mrs. Prest, 50, has prayed the highest court of the UK to quash the ruling of the Court of Appeal (England and Wales), which ruled that 51-year-old Prest could use Nigerian Customary law to shield his multimillion assets from being split with his former wife. The judges, six men and Lady Hale of Richmond, will, in the coming months, give the ruling, which will set legal precedence for similar cases involving legal disputes between husbands and wives in Great Britain.

On Friday, Supreme Court sources told The Guardian that the "judgement doesn't come that quickly. It takes a couple of months for the Judges to deliver their judgement after a case has finished," when asked how soon the judgement would be delivered.

Prior to dragging her former husband before the Law Lords last week, the High Court had, in October 2011, ruled that Prest should give a lump sum of £17.5 million of his wealth and some London properties as settlement to his former wife, after she asked for over £30million maintenance payout and £730,000 per annum to cover "reasonable needs" for both herself and their four children.

However, he headed straight for the Court of Appeal and in February last year, citing Itsekiri Customary Law. In October, his lawyers won the appeal and got an order slashing the High Court ruling by almost £9 million. Thereby, reducing his wife's payout to over £8 million.

Citing the customary Nigerian law, lawyers representing Prest said the oil tycoon, having lost his father - who set him up in business with a seed gift of £10,000 before his death in 1992- is not only the head of his extended family, but also responsible for the welfare of his four brothers and their children.

Besides, Prest's lawyers argued that by virtue of the same Nigerian Customary Law, the assets of their client belong to the family and not solely those of their multimillionaire client.

In essence, what Prest's lawyers and those of the three companies - Petrodel Resources Ltd, Petrodel Upstream Ltd. and Vermount Petroleum Ltd - he owns, said last week was that, under Nigerian Customary Law, those three oil companies and their assets belong to their client's family and not solely his.

The companies are all registered in the Isle of Man.

But Mrs. Prest's lawyers based their arguments on Section 24(1)(a) of Matrimonial Causes Act 1973, to ask the Judges to reverse the order, which Prest got at the Appeal Court in October last year, where his lawyers had invoked Nigerian Customary law to quash the order of the High Court.

Also added to the prayer of his former wife is the fact that Prest, who resides in Monaco, had not even paid the mother of his four children neither the lump sum, which was slashed by nearly half nor the £270, 000 -a -year allowance, which the Court ordered him to pay her. Her lawyer argued that if his client lost this case, other husbands would similarly be able to dishonestly use this legal precedence to hide their assets behind a corporate veil, thereby denying their wives a fair slice of their fortune.

Mrs. Prest's legal team also underlined the fact that if the case went against their client, the Marital Causes Act - a legislation meant to give divorcing spouses a fair share of their assets - would become meaningless.

Although the court was told that Mrs. Prest still lives in their £4 million marital home in Bayswater, West London, and that her former husband is paying over £100,000 per annum in school fees for the couple's four children's education in private schools, he has refused to obey courts orders that he should pay her massive legal costs.

Moreover, he has been handing out just a meagre £150 per week as maintenance allowance. Her lawyers went further, accusing him of using a "cheats charter" to hide his oil money in offshore companies.

Mrs. Prest's barrister, Richard Todd QC -Queen's Counsel, the equivalent of SAN - told the court on Tuesday that: "It is not hyperbole to say that this is a case where, if the companies succeed, this wife will be rendered destitute. They say it is not the case that this is a "cheats charter," even though it would result in Mr. Prest and his companies coming away with tens of millions of pounds, while the wife is reduced to claiming benefits. They say it is not a "cheats charter' because there are potentially other remedies available to the wife. We say this is not so." He described his client's former husband as someone who has exhibited a strong desire to "thwart the intentions of the court."

Todd also said that coupled with this is the wrong signal that this judgement -if it went against Mrs. Prest - would send out to other warring couples across the UK. "It would be a simple matter to incorporate a company, or better still use a company already incorporated, in order to retain assets and make them judgement -proof in a case such as this. This would be that very "cheats charter," and more importantly, "it would reduce the Matrimonial Causes Act to being nothing more than a scarecrow."

Although Prest claims he wants to give his former wife shares in the companies, her lawyer would rather his client have nothing to do with that. Todd told the court that waiting to get a slice of the companies would be a wasteful exercise for his client. Basing his argument on the way the companies' ownership is structured, Todd noted that Prest had already woven such a "web of deceit in respect of ownership of these shares that it would be impossible to ever work out what the position is."

He compared entering into any agreement with his client's former husband as being equivalent to her "being led in a merry dance without any reward." Continuing, Todd added: "The husband who is resident in Monaco, simply uses these companies as his piggy bank," noting that although "he is supposed to be paying Mrs Prest £270,000 per annum, but he simply chooses not to pay that."

Todd made it clear that Mr Prest "is paying Mrs Prest £150 cash per week - £7,800 per annum , a little bit less than the minimum wage."

Strange Affair: Meet the Husband, Wife and Lover Living Under the SAME Roof

 

 



Maria with Hubby Paul and Lover Peter

When mum-of-two Maria Butzki left her husband Paul for another man, she didn’t realise how much she’d miss him. At the same time, she couldn’t imagine living without her new lover Peter Gruman.

So when the two men struck up an extraordinary friendship, she came up with the perfect solution... and moved Peter into the family home in Barking, East London.

Now Maria, 33, Paul, 37, their two ­children, Laura, 16, and Amy, 12, and Peter, 36, live as one big happy family.

“People might think it’s weird but I love both men and couldn’t choose between them,” says Maria, a ­housing liaison officer.

“When I left Paul there was a huge hole in my life. But the thought of never seeing Peter again was heartbreaking. So living with both men is the only way.”

Incredibly, the men agree. Paul, a railway assessor, says: “Peter is a great guy. When Maria first had the affair with him I was just heartbroken. But as I got to know him, I realised we have so much in common. We both adore fishing, and he’s like a surrogate dad to the kids.”

Peter, a construction site manager, adds: “We all get on so well. It doesn’t feel as if I’m ­sharing Maria. There’s no ­jealousy ...it feels as if we area team.”

It was last year that they all moved in ­together after three years of ­Maria to-ing and fro-ing between her husband and lover.

Peter sleeps on the sofa while Paul has a room ­upstairs. Maria shares a bedroom with her eldest daughter.

She says: “The three of us never share a bed. Although I have a sexual relationship with each man, that side is kept very private. If Paul is out, then Peter and I might make love, and vice-versa. But both men turn a blind eye and we never discuss it with one another.”

Maria was 15 when she and Paul met at school. After dating for two years, she unexpectedly became pregnant. Paul proposed seven months into her term and a month later they ­married. Four years after the birth of Laura, Maria had their second daughter Amy. But in 2006 their marriage hit a rocky patch

Maria says: “Paul was out of work for six months and it put a strain on our ­relationship. The stress led to less sex and we grew apart. Although we carried on with life – cooking, cleaning, looking after the child­ren – we’d lost our intimacy. The relationship was more brother and sister than a couple.

Around the same time a new manager, Peter, started at Maria’s workplace.

“Someone introduced me to Peter and when we smiled at one another, I could feel the chemistry straight away,” she says. “Until that moment, I’d been happily married for 13 years to my childhood sweetheart and had never thought about being with another man.”

Peter, who was also married at the time, recalls the same instant attraction. “It was like a bolt from the blue... love at first sight,” he says.

Soon the pair were meeting secretly. “We’d meet at the local pub for lunch,” says Maria. “One day he put a hand on my leg and my whole body began trembling with desire. I knew it was wrong but soon we were sleeping together.”

Their affair carried on for a year before Paul stumbled on messages between them on Maria’s phone. She managed to convince him they were just friends. But a few months later her lover left his wife and moved from Luton, Beds, to be closer to Maria in Barking.

“I grew even closer to Peter,” says Maria. “Paul had to go away on business for a few weeks and so Peter took the children shopping, ­spoiling them rotten with gifts.”

But on Valentine’s Day in 2010, Maria says she could no longer cope with the secrecy. “I began to feel more and more that my future lay with Peter,” she says. “So I confessed my affair to Paul, and moved out to stay with Peter.”

 

Paul and the children were devastated. He says: “I was just shocked and heartbroken. I couldn’t believe Maria had left me.”

Over the next few months Paul and Maria took turns to have the children. “I felt bad about tearing the family apart,” says Maria. “So after work I’d go and clean and cook for Paul and the kids and then go home to Peter.”

Paul says: “While I was so upset, I decided to try to put the children first. It was going to be much better if we could all be mature adults and be amicable about it. I could see Peter was a decent guy. When the kids went to stay over I knew he was putting himself out to make sure they were happy. I’d go to pick them up and we got chatting.”

Over the next year their relationship became even more amicable. Maria says: “Rather than cook two separate dinners, it was easier to just do one and all sit down together. Paul and Peter got on so well they went on a fishing trip together. We even started going on days out and holidays together

“It was strange but I noticed I felt at my happiest when we were all together. The children adored having both of them around too.”

Then in November 2012 the tenancy on Peter’s rented flat came to an end. He went to stay with a friend and Maria moved back to the family home. Maria says: “It was supposed to be a temporary arrangement but while I missed Peter terribly, it was fantastic to be back as a family.”

When Peter found another flat, Maria decided it was time to sit both men down and be honest with them. “I said I loved them both,” she says. “I said I couldn’t face living without either of them.”

To her delight, both men said they understood.

Peter says: “By now Paul and I had developed a huge respect for each other. We didn’t see one another as rivals for Maria’s affections. We were friends who got on well. At the same time I’d come to care so much for the children. It seemed natural to live together.”

Paul says: “Maria was and still is my soulmate.”

The “family” are now in the process of buying a larger house to accommodate them all.

Maria admits many friends and family find the arrangement difficult to understand.

“Some people are shocked, mostly because they get the wrong idea and think it’s some sort of threesome,” she says. “Most people seem to think I should just remain with Paul, but those who see all of us ­together think differently.” She adds: “There are huge benefits to living together. For example, as Paul and I leave for work early, Peter is often able to take the children to school.

“Ultimately the children benefit from three adults able to help with school work or give them lifts. Financially too, it makes sense as the bills are split three ways.”

Ironically, Maria is now the one who sometimes gets jealous. “I’m left on my own when the pair of them go on a long fishing trip,” she says.

She’s unsure what the sleeping arrangements will be in their new house. “But we would never have any sort of rota where I sleep with Peter one night and Paul the next. I do know I’m very lucky to have two wonderful men in my life.”